All of us are broken in some way or another. There are unseen cracks behind those perfect smiles and happy relationships as well. But like Ernest Hemingway puts it, “Life breaks all of us, but some of us get stronger in the broken places.”
Sure, it’s painful when you are at the bottom of the pit, when complete darkness and misery envelope you and you feel you have reached the edge and your world is falling apart! But, don’t let that pain define you. Don’t let it overwhelm your soul because you are much more than your struggles.
You are meant for much greater things, and no catastrophe can stop you from achieving them. Always remember, you are a strong soul.
Read on to know of the power you possess to make things right and nurture your soul when your world is falling apart.
1. Don’t Go into Denial
Avoiding the situation is not going to make it disappear. You have to gear up and see the situation and your life as they are. You have to ask yourself what went wrong and what brought you to this place.
Don’t go into the rut of denial and self-pity when everything around you seems to conspire against you. That will only be another downfall in the making. Instead face the catastrophe. See it without colored glasses and consciously, with perspective and understanding, work towards changing the situation and making it better for you.
2. Take Responsibility
The moment you start taking responsibility, you start defeating the powerlessness that engulfs you. Your soul slowly but surely takes flight, gets stronger, and fills you with the courage to take bold, but rooted decisions.
When you take responsibility for your predicament instead of blaming others or languishing in sadness and hopelessness, you gradually carve out a brighter, better destiny for yourself. You nurture your soul, boost your self-esteem and imbibe a sense of integrity because you can go to bed knowing that you did your best.
3. Don’t Stop Dreaming and Aspiring
There is always a new chapter of life waiting for you to be explored, read, experienced, and lived. Don’t let one incomplete chapter and broken dreams stop you from aspiring and dreaming. Dreams are the fire of our souls, and our souls are the flame of our existence.
To live a beautiful life and nourish your being, you need to have dreams and aspirations. So, don’t stop dreaming. Besides, can you think of a life where you are not looking forward to anything or working towards your goals?
Even, if you feel completely shattered and lost, don’t give up hope. All of us have the power to make our dreams come true, regardless of the direness of the situation. And, it is these dreams that will make you see the light in the darkness, propel you to forget your misery, and take action to put your life back on track.
4. Set a Goal for Yourself with a Deadline
If dreams are the carriage to a more fulfilled life, a goal to be achieved in a definite schedule is the fuel for it. Set a goal for yourself. Visualize yourself achieving it and then, act towards it. Take action to see results.
When your world has fallen apart, the one thing you don’t have is the luxury of time. Work tirelessly towards your goal. Work so hard and so sincerely that you are completely exhausted by the end of the day. When your mind and body are drained, you simply don’t have the time to drown yourself in sorrows and pain or absentmindedly think about them.
When you act rather than just ponder, the period of hopelessness, failure, and powerlessness leaves you faster than you would think. You will slowly find happiness, curiosity, and ambition coming back into your life.
5. Immerse and Invest Yourself in Experiences
Our lives are nothing, but a series of experiences. Whether the roof over your shelter has fallen or the love of your life has left you, life still moves on. Enrich your life with new experiences. When nothing seems to work out and you feel like your life is spiraling out of control, it may be the perfect time for you to invest in a whole new experience. Let losing everything become the impetus for you to try your hand at new experiences you always shied away from you. Knock on doors you never had visited earlier. Here are a few ideas:
- A. Travel to unfamiliar countries, meet new people and live a completely different life. You don’t need tons of money to do this. Just take the bare essentials with you, live with the locals and explore a different world altogether.
- B. Immerse yourself in historical romance novels. Skip your business Bibles and light reads, and opt for a genre not a lot of us think of reading. Historical romances are the perfect antidotes to the crazy demands of our modern life. They tell and teach of ardor, passion, and love like we just don’t see anymore. They expose you to characters of grit and steely determination, who conquer all odds and learn to succeed despite challenges. They fill you with passion, hope, commitment, and courage, all of which are worthy emotions to counter pain, anguish, and negativity.
- C. Learn to cook. Cooking is therapeutic. Whoever said you have to cook something fancy to take your mind off your troubles was wrong. You don’t need to whip up a storm to forget your woes. Simply making a salad can instill in you all the positivity and motivation you need. Try your hand at different dishes. Develop an appreciation for this art, and fall in love with flavors and aromas.
We absorb vibes like a sponge and when we invest our energies in such myriad experiences in times of adversity, we emerge with an enriched soul and a fertile mind. We become individuals who are kinder, stronger, and better equipped to take on the world.
Finally, learn to be grateful even in times of extreme agony and pain. Remember, pain is temporary and shall pass. Be grateful for the shelter you have above your head and the food you nourish your body with. Gratitude is the strongest shield against fear, sorrow, pain, and powerlessness. Practice gratitude in the darkest of times and it will empower you. Keep yourself motivated and think rationally. Believe that life is only meant to go forward. Staying in your current zone is not an option, and there is always a solution for even the most complex and heartbreaking situations. Spot the light, inculcate the art of bouncing back and remember these golden words by Marilyn Monroe:
“Sometimes things fall apart so that better things can fall together.”